queen (n.)

acceptable sex-specific word for royalty. If you need a gender-free term, try ruler, monarch, sovereign, crowned head, leader. In the world of slurs, "queen" can be used to demean a man considered to be "effeminate." "King" has not been similarly misused and downgraded. If you are reporting hate speech, set the term in quotation marks to show the bias of the speaker. Better yet, to avoid giving the word an airing, report that the person "used a derogatory word for a lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender person." Gay men might use "queen" among themselves, but its use is unacceptable by non-gays. See insider/outsider rule.