naming

naming is power, and the right to name ourselves is one of the most basic rights. It seems a simple enough thing—to call other people what they want to be called and not to call them what they don't want to be called—but some people have a hard time with this, e.g.: When Peg turned 40 she asked her friends to call her "Margaret." She'd been nicknamed Peg, never liked it, and wanted to spend her remaining years with her "real" name. A friend thought the whole thing was silly: "I'll call her Peg if I want to." And that's where we are today. Some people call other people what they feel like calling them.