patriot/patriotic/patriotism

from Latin for "land of my father," these terms function today as inclusive words, although their connection to "father" words (patriarchy, paternalism, patrimony, patronizing) tends to emphasize the male-dominated, hierarchical, war-prone elements of our country. "Because the term carries a generally positive connotation, it is susceptible to misappropriation for propagandistic purposes. Political elites and the manufacturers of consent for their rule are wont to use the idea to characterize thoughts, deeds, and even persons that they favor; and to describe what they want to disparage as unpatriotic" (Andrew Levine, Political Keywords). If you need an alternative for "patriotic" without sex-linked roots, consider civic-minded, public spirited, nationalistic, loyal.