patrician

this word shares the same Latin root (pater ) as other "father" words and there is no parallel "matrician." It is not functionally sexist, but it tends to be classist and you may sometimes want alternatives for the adjective: elegant, well-bred, formal, stately, graceful, courtly, debonair, delicate, decorous, majestic, exquisite, polite, seemly, refined, genteel, cultivated, urbane, sophisticated, worldly, stylish, cosmopolitan, classy. The best alternative for the noun is aristocrat, although we tend not to use "patrician" in that sense, perhaps because of our democratic underpinnings.