gentlemanlike/gentlemanly

this stereotype conveys different meanings according to one's perception of what a man ought or ought not do, say, think, wear, feel, look like. These words have nothing to do with sex and everything to do with gender. Use instead courteous, civil, refined, polite, well-mannered, polished, mannerly, brave, thoughtful, considerate, agreeable, accommodating, decent, discreet, dependable, punctilious, civilized, cultivated, dignified. These adjectives can be used equally well of women. They are not synonyms for "gentlemanlike/gentlemanly" but rather what society hears by those terms.