What My Husband Thinks

I am a young wife. I've been married for almost a year now and I am not quite 23. I love my husband more than I possibly ever imagined I could, but his views toward women make me gag. I work between 30- 60 hours a week at a respectable job with a respectable income. He is currently working on a "project" that brings in zero income. And I don't mind that, I knew when I married him that his career was unstable, but I at least figured that he would do more than sit on his butt playing video games all day.

As the wife, he expects me to run the entire household, which includes everything from laundry to cooking daily meals. Now mind you if he has the full time+ job I wouldn't care at all, I'd be happy to help him.

But instead i get home from work at 7 and can't even rest before I hear, "Whats for dinner, when are you going to do laundry, the cat box needs cleaning again..." and so on.

I want to know what perpetuates the role that women play? I understand that up until 30 years ago women were expected to play the good housewife, but I had no idea that that was still how most men think. The first time i confronted him about this he shrugged it off with a, "I don't know, now that I'm married I don't ever want to do laundry again."

Responses like that lead me to believe that he married me to be his maid, not his partner. I even tried splitting up the chores, I would do laundry he would cook dinner...etc. No go. So every day I come home from work knowing that a chore list waits me.

Am I crazy? Is my role not only wife but maid and cook too? Is this normal?